Three days ago I wrote about this same subject, but now that there have been many comments against Kaitlyn’s cause, there are more things to be said. A lot of these comments came down to the fact that Kaitlyn should not be given special treatment because of the fact that she happens to be gay, and with that, I agree. However, that is not the point.
More to the point is for example the fact that age is measured in years, both by law and by society, which can sometimes be incredibly irrational. Imagine a 17-year-old boy and a 15-year-old girl who have been in a relationship for 2 years. The boy has his birthday on June 1st, the girl has her birthday on June 2nd. That would mean that it had been legal for them to do whatever they wanted with each other for 2 years and until the day they died, except for that one day on which the boy turned 18. Does anyone truly believe that that is rational?
The same goes for Kaitlyn’s case, except for the fact that it’s less extreme. Right now, her girlfriend is said to have been 14, and she was, but that doesn’t mean that the age difference was 4 years. The precise date on which someone was born shouldn’t matter at all.
Particularly extreme in this case is the fact that the two girls played in the same basketball team. When it comes to things like that, you won’t notice the age difference. I understand that it is difficult for those people over the age of 30, which is probably the majority of her opponents, to imagine what it is like to be a teenager, but in practice, that number everyone is labelled with is not something which is always equally visible.
Especially girls can look and act a lot older than they actually are. I know plenty of 14-year-old girls who could easily be mistaken for 18 or older, and if you put ten 14-year-olds in the same room as ten 18-year-olds, chances are very slim that you would be able to assign the right age to all of them. After all, girls generally stop growing after the age of 14, and when it comes to maturity, there are plenty of 14-year-olds who are a lot more mature than some people who have far exceeded their 40s.
To me, this once again shows how far the American politics and justice system is behind on Europe. The US has become so obsessed over that 18th century constitution that they fail to see reason in simple cases such as these. Whereas in the Netherlands someone like Kaitlyn would be released without any kind of punishment, in the US, she might face a sentence of 15 years in prison and get labelled a “sex offender”, while everyone can see that Kaitlyn isn’t much of a “sexual predator” at all.
In the end, it doesn’t come down to the fact that she is a lesbian. The point is that she was in a relationship with someone in the same age group as her, someone who she played basketball with all the time and someone who she was close to. The age difference between the two was no greater than that of the average marriage, and the only problem is the fact that Kaitlyn reached a “milestone”, which was invented by society and which has no significance whatsoever. There has never been someone who turned 18 and who thought “wow, I do feel twice as mature as I did yesterday.” That’s not how it works.
Right now, the judges have this girl’s life in their hands. They can ruin her entire life because of a high school romance, just because she had reached this imaginary milestone. Yes, she broke the law, but the point is that this law is irrational, and that any well-developed country wouldn’t have a law system which would ruin a young girl’s career over something as innocent as this. The good thing is that the US has a system where the judges can alter the law with their decisions, so therefore, it is time for these judges to do the right thing and to make that decision, so that in the future, all those teenagers who might face the same issues, won’t have to go through this living hell for no reason. It would definitely make the US seem like less of a third world country, and it could improve a lot of lives.
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